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Dee

I feel because Misophobia is relatively unknown (only sufferers search for answers) and we have almost all self diagnosed. People in general without this relatively unheard of condition cannot relate to the feelings normal everyday sounds / actions cause. I feel I have communicated this condition to family and friends, I printed papers with known triggers for family so they could read…But I don’t think anyone has ever made a conscious effort to change sounds or movements to eliminate my anxiety…
I don’t sit with people to eat (only a select few and thankfully some people very close to me don’t trigger anything when I sit with them for a meal).I love to cook so I will make dinners and serve and move around or leave the room when everyone else eats…I have been doing this for so long that I don’t see it as a problem anymore….it does sound unhealthy but alternative of sitting with noisy eaters is worse…If in a restaurant I will need to select my seat so I can easily move and ensure I don’t sit beside certain people…
just need to say it as it is and ask people read up about it say its a real thing and you genuinely feel discomfort with triggers you experience…and have the conversation with people when there is no trigger present,,i have all to many times had the conversation when reacting to a trigger and that has untimatly lead to an argument where I feel the trigger is attacking me and the person I am trying to discuss the issue with is feeling I am attacking them for them been rude…and its not the case, so try have the conversation in a calm manner in a calm environment…